Have you ever hand an instance where you asked someone to speak plainly, to tell you the truth, but when they did you really were not sure you wanted to hear it? Kind of like the movie line, “YOU CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH!” I suppose sometimes parents run into this with their children, and I know that there are times when bosses and employees, students and teachers, and even Dominicans can find themselves in the same situation.
Why is it the truth is hard to hear sometimes? And why is it that sometimes we would rather believe a lie than to acknowledge the truth? Sometimes we prefer to be “in denial”, so to speak. Usually, I think, it is because acknowledging the truth is too painful. It can involve hurtful things, or may require a real change in us that we would rather not make. Usually it means that something we believed has to be let go. And that is not always easy.
Consider parents who first hear some real disappointment about their children. They have made a bad decision, precisely because they are children. Or maybe it is being confronted about something concerning our actions that we do not want to admit is true. It can seem easier to hide in the cocoon of lies than to enter into the freedom of the truth.